Really appreciate you looking out for me mate - especially after all the crap I've talked about your footballing knowledge! All the best to you as well my friend
The right way - gotta talk about it mate - the wrong way is stewing and pills and drinks and not having control.....
You keep it contained in the mind - the mind will do a number on you - out in the open, you are in charge, not held to ransom....
All the best mate - hope you find the answer that best suits you.....
Loving the MAP love in
Why do you have a long distance relationship if you don't mind me asking, did you used to live in the same place then one of you moved or has it always been long distance? I don't really know how they work but I can't imagine their easy.
I think you're right, the doctor is often the first port of call perhaps to get signed off in the first instance, counselling is frustrating in that it often takes so long to get in and with the dark clouds already there it's never quick enough in my experience.
Depending on where you are at I would always say doctors and counselling are good if they run along side each other, that said that's just my experience - I uncovered a myriad of issues when I went to a counseller and a doctor guided me on switching medication at the same time.
The thing that helped me most was lots of time and lots of love and it sounds like from your post you've got a soulmate to stand along side you.
Big LUV and respect to all reds YNWA
Not really liking the upcoming easter weekend, people are out and about, enjoying themselves, while I am sat here at home as usual, looking after my miserable old grandad.
I find it really hard to remain positive when I am getting moaned at and put down 24/7, sometimes I really wonder why I bother to stay here and take care of him..
Thankfully I have a holiday booked next month and I am looking forward to getting away from it, even if it is just a for a fortnight.
Thankfully my mum and my aunt come and take him out a couple of times a week, as much as they can, but the rest of the time hes a bit of a pain, hes a bit like alf garnett without the racism, always has to make his opinions known, no matter how offensive and ridiculous they sound, he can be quite upsetting to me without realising it.
I have social phobia and I have been pretty depressed for the past ten or so years since I split up with my ex and my gran died at the same time, I have spent that time sat in my house for the most part.
I only really started to get out socially again last year, I was toying with the idea of moving out but I could not bare the thought of him going into a home, I know how much he would hate it you see, it was my docs idea to go on holiday and take a break, I am really looking forward to a break now.
It's good you have something to look forward to, lots of people told me to try and get something planned even if really small just to have something on the horizon to look forward too.
It's sounds like you've had a rough time albeit I get wanting to be alone and perhaps being lonely at the same time, I wanted to both hide and be held at the same time.
Enjoy your well earned break my friend
A short post for Easter.
A time for gathering and family and friendship.
Not everyone is fortunate to have that which many take for granted.
Keep well fellow Reds
I always felt like It was my duty to look after him, he always did everything he could for me and I was always very close to my grandparents.
I might sound harsh, but he has already lived his life, been married had kids, the older I get, the more I feel entitled to live my life before its over, I dont want to die a lonely old man with nothing going for me.
As you say I have to look after myself as well, that is something I never really did since my gran died, my ex left and I started feeling sorry for myself !
Anyway cheers and happy Easter to you man, and everyone else !
Lets hope the sun comes out a bit !
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